Just had the longest talk ever with my mom, in a very long while. And she never ceases to amaze me with her wisdom. Among the many things she said, one of them was about friendships. She said *summarized*: every friend is only for a period of time. n im not saying that your friends dont mean anything, but that you have to always keep in mind that friendships are for only a period of time. your grade school friends are no longer your friends now. where are your middle school and highschool friends? and even now your friends will only be there till you are no longer on the same route/plan as them. people grow apart, friends grow apart. not because you want it to happen, but because time changes things. time changes your relationships. sometimes even two people that love each other will leave each other because theyre headed down two different paths. they dont leave each other because they decided to or because they fought over something, but simply because time and change gets in between them, to where they are no longer best friends like they used to be. you have to always remember that. n yes you'll be sad about certain friendships because you love those people so much; but always remember this- and the separation will be easier on you. saves you a lot of heartache and pain.
i dont know if my mom knew exactly wat i have been thinking about lately, but she made everything so easy for me. a load lifted off my shoulders. i've been struggling with letting go of beautiful relationships, because the memories are so great and the people so tremendously important in my life- that i dont want to believe in the fact that time and change is getting in between us. i dont want to believe that right now- we're on different paths and different agendas, that naturally we're bound to not be so close as we were. i have been tryin to hold on to something that is no longer there. a simple memory or pleasure or laughter or confidence i had with these individuals. but im content now. i know that no matter what- at that point in my life- they had a major part of me all to themselves. that no matter what part of my life they joined in- they will always be a part of who made me who i am today. n ill forever be grateful for those people. forever grateful. n who knows maybe one day inshallah- ill cross paths with them again n it will be as if nothing changed, no time came in between us. and we were forever as close as we were yesterday. inshallah.
off to a different topic:
she also reminded me that i should always remember who created me, and the many blessings i have been bestowed with. simple reminders that i should always know about, but sometimes thoughts get the best of you- and you forget all thats important in life. like family, faith, being patient, kind, helping others because you can, forgiveness, and praying. simple but important factors in everyone's life. ones we all need to be reminded of. the reason behind my life. the reasons why i do the things i do. the reasons why i sacrifice a whole lot to gain a whole lot more. the reason why i should keep persevering against the odds. the reason why quitting wasnt made for me. and at the end of the day when im at my ropes end- i should just remember these simple reasons of why i strted off in the beginning on whatever journey im on at that time. mybe change the methods of getting to my destination- but have my destination alongside my reasons clearly right in front of me.
and a very good reminder of what you need to do to accomplish success in your life (very nice video to watch): The Truth and a reminder to me of why i struggle the way i do, and why i wake up and do something everyday even when i just want to rest. n when that is all i want- rest.
Tis All For Today..still need to catch up on my vacation in canada. lool i prob will get to it winter break :)
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